A Love Letter to the Woman I Was — And the Woman I Became

A Love Letter to the Woman I Was — And the Woman I Became

To the girl who became a mother at 19,

To the young woman who held a baby in one hand and dreams in the other while studying at university…

To the version of me who got married at 25, believing in love and hope and building a life…

And to the woman who walked through the heartache of divorce — this is for you.

I see you. I honor you. I love you.

Life hasn’t always gone to plan, has it? But maybe that’s because there was a better plan all along — one you couldn’t yet see. One that would shape you, strengthen you, and bring you home to yourself.

There were moments you felt lost. You poured so much into your roles — as a mother, a partner, a student — and when things fell apart, it was easy to feel like you had fallen apart too. But you didn’t. You just rearranged. You just evolved. You just learned to begin again.

If I could go back to the start of that hard chapter — the moment everything shifted and divorce felt like an ending — I would hold that woman close and tell her this:

Don’t stay stuck in the pain. Redirect it. Take that fire and turn it into something beautiful. Go back and study. Pour into your passions. Follow the path that lights you up, even if it looks different than what you imagined.

I wish I had done that sooner. I wish I hadn’t sat in the ache for so long. But I got there — and that’s what matters. That’s the message I want to pass on to every woman walking through her own turning point:

Everything works out the way it’s meant to.

Even when it feels like everything is falling apart — it’s often just falling into place.

You’ll look back one day and realize the strength you gained, the resilience you grew, and the way life was always gently guiding you toward something more aligned, more purposeful, more you.

So, to the younger me — and to every woman reading this —

You are allowed to start over. You are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to dream again.

You are not behind. You are right on time.

With love,

A stronger, wiser, braver version of you.

Fiona - The Solo Mum Club x