Exploring the Gaps in Motherhood and What We Expected

Hey you,

Can we be real for a second?

We used to think that becoming a mum would somehow make everything else click into place. That holding our baby for the first time would fill all the gaps, soothe the ache of loneliness, give us that “wholeness” everyone talks about.

But if you’ve ever sat on the edge of the bed at 1:47am, half-asleep, feeding with one hand and Googling “Why do I feel like I’m disappearing?” with the other—then you know.

Motherhood, especially solo motherhood, doesn’t wrap life up in a neat bow.

It’s beautiful, yes. But it’s also raw.It’s magical. But it’s messy.It’s full of love. And sometimes, achingly lonely.

And still, even in all of that we show up.We keep going.

Not because we feel like superheroes, but because someone little is counting on us. Because we are their person. Their safe place. Their whole world.

We may not feel “complete.”But we are anchored.

In the quiet routines. In the whispered “Mummy” at 6:03am.In the endless cereal bowls and the wrong colour cups. In the invisible strength we’ve built day after day.

Maybe we’re not supposed to feel whole all the time.Maybe it’s okay to still be growing. Still searching. Still figuring out who we are underneath the nappies, the schedules, the silence when the kids are with their other parent or when it’s just us, and we wish someone would ask how we are.

Here’s what we do know: You’re not alone here. Not in this inbox, not in this community.

So tell us what’s anchoring you lately?

Hit reply, or come share in the group.

We see you. We’re with you. And we’re glad you’re here.

With love,The Solo Mums Club Team x

Real Life Motherhood