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Break the Cycle: Trusting the Process and Overcoming Overthinking as a Solo Mum


What skills or lessons have you learned recently?

When I first became a solo mum, I didn’t realize the strength it would take, the sacrifices I would make, and the incredible love I would feel. It’s a role no one can truly prepare you for. It’s filled with sleepless nights, endless decisions, and carrying the weight of everything—alone. Financial responsibilities, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure to “hold it all together” can feel like too much. I know, because I’ve been there.

In the beginning, I overthought everything. I questioned myself constantly: Am I doing enough? Am I strong enough? Will I get through this? On the tough days, I felt overwhelmed by the never-ending to-do lists, the bills, and the isolation of doing it all solo. I didn’t know if I’d make it through.

But here’s what I’ve learned: you’re stronger than you think.

Trusting the Process

One of the most valuable skills I’ve learned recently is to trust the process. It sounds simple, but it’s harder than it looks. As mums, especially solo mums, we want everything to be perfect for our children. We overthink, we second-guess ourselves, and we let the tough days define us. But the truth is, the bad days will come—and they will pass. And when they do, the good days will shine so brightly that the struggles will feel small in comparison.

The little victories matter:

• The laughter shared over a simple meal.

• Watching your child achieve something new.

• Finding a moment of peace after a long, chaotic day.

These moments remind us that we are more than enough.

The Challenges of the Journey

Being a solo mum is hard—there’s no sugarcoating it. You are the decision-maker, the provider, the nurturer, the teacher, and the comforter. You shoulder every responsibility. You carry the weight of your family’s future on your back, and some days it feels too heavy.

I’ve been there—staring at bills, juggling work and parenting, wondering if I’d ever feel whole again. I thought I was alone in this, but I wasn’t. And neither are you.

There are countless mums out there going through the same challenges. They’re sitting up late at night, worrying about finances. They’re hiding tears behind smiles so their children feel safe. They’re giving everything of themselves, even when they feel empty.

But here’s the truth: those challenges are shaping you into someone unstoppable.

Rebuilding Yourself

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is that rebuilding yourself after life takes an unexpected turn is where your true power lies. Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Growth doesn’t happen without effort. And strength doesn’t appear without struggle.

You are not just surviving—you are thriving, even if it doesn’t feel like it yet.

• Trust yourself when you’re unsure.

• Be kind to yourself when the bad days come.

• Celebrate yourself when you overcome even the smallest challenges.

You are not “just enough.” You are everything. Everything your child needs. Everything that makes their world safe and filled with love.

Breaking the Cycle

Breaking the cycle of overthinking, self-doubt, and guilt has changed my journey. I’ve learned that I don’t need to have all the answers, and I don’t need to be perfect. All I need to do is show up—with love, with resilience, and with trust in myself.

To any mum reading this: you are stronger than you think. You are capable of rebuilding yourself, of finding joy again, and of creating the life you and your child deserve. Healing, growth, and strength are possible. Trust the process.

The good days are coming, and they will outshine the bad ones. You’ve got this.

“The Solo Mum Club: Where healing begins, growth happens, and strength is celebrated.”

Fiona - The Solo Mum Club

 
 
 

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