Self-love in a world that sometimes criticises woman.

Angel Energy, Divine Power

I feel there’s so much pressure on women — what we should look like, how we should maintain ourselves, the things we’re expected to do just to keep up appearances. And it never seems to stop.

I was listening to Sarah Jessica Parker recently, and something she said really hit home.

Someone had commented, “Oh, Sarah Jessica Parker’s got grey hair.”

And all I could think was: So what?

She was standing next to a man with grey hair the lovely Andy Cohen— and no one said a word about him. No critique. No judgment. Just silence. And that speaks volumes don't you think?

It’s the kind of subtle but relentless double standard women face every day. This unspoken rule that we must stay youthful, polished, flawless — forever.

And it’s only gotten louder in today’s world, where social media puts us under a microscope. Public opinion, online criticism, unrealistic beauty standards — it can all feel like too much. I’ve felt it too. I’ve been on the receiving end. And let me tell you — it hurts.

What’s worse is that sometimes, it’s our own inner voice doing the most damage. We scroll, compare, overanalyse, criticise ourselves. And then, when we do find the courage to share something, there’s that lingering fear… What if someone judges me? What if I’m not good enough?

But here’s the truth:

You are more than enough. You are already worthy.

We are expected to hold everything together — be good mothers, show up at work, keep a home, be emotionally available — and somehow look radiant while doing it all. It’s exhausting. And it’s unrealistic.

That’s why self-love and self-compassion aren’t luxuries — they’re lifelines.

So if you’ve been feeling the pressure…

If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and felt like you don’t measure up…

If you’ve held yourself back from sharing your light because of fear of criticism…

Please hear this:

You are doing amazing. You don’t need anyone’s permission to grow, to rest, to love yourself exactly as you are.

Here are a few gentle tools to help you rebuild that self-love muscle:

• 1. Unfollow anyone who makes you feel small.

Curate your digital space like a garden. If it doesn’t nourish you, let it go.

• 2. Talk to yourself like you’d talk to a friend.

Would you speak to your best friend the way you sometimes speak to yourself?

• 3. Make mirror moments a ritual.

Every time you look at your reflection, say something kind. Even if it’s just, “I see you.”

• 4. Take up space — online or offline.

Post the photo. Write the caption. Wear the bold lipstick. Let them see you.

• 5. Rest is revolutionary.

You don’t have to earn your worth through exhaustion. Rest is sacred.

You are not just a mum — you are a woman with soul, power, softness, and depth.

And this space, this newsletter The Solo Mum Club, is here to remind you of that.

You are walking with Angel Energy and carrying Divine Power — don’t ever let the noise of the world drown out that truth.

With love always,

Fiona xx